we want to hear what you like about us. flattery will get you everywhere.... as long as you don't use it too much. if one day you like the way her eyes are standing out (weird example, i know. I'm not feeling super creative today. more like brain-dead.) then tell her. but if the next day you like her jewelry (or something else. i know i know these examples are sucking, but you're getting the point, right??) then keep your mouth shut. when you just shower her with a whole frickin buttload of compliments it seems like you just want in the pants.
seriously, it does.
but this isn't what I'm talking about. the point (or main one) is that yes, you should tell a girl that shes beautiful. but she wants to hear more that its her personality you're attracted to, not her pretty face. if she thinks you only like her for her looks, (you've gotta try hard to make sure that does NOT NOT NOT happen) then she will probably deem you shallow and you wont have a chance after that. it'll be really hard to redeem yourself.
unless shes the whore-ish type. then shell loveee the attention and pretty much eat it up. but believe me, you don't want a girl who drops her pants every time a moderately good-looking guy passes along. girls like that are pretty much always super-ugly on the inside and will probably tell everyone shes a lesbian in a couple months anyways, so you aren't missing out.
unless you're into that.
yuck.
and when you date a whore and get a reputation for liking slutty girls, the good ones (who colorfully lack STDs) will tend to stay away from you.
it goes like this.
date one whore- good girls are weary of you.
date two whores- good girls avoid you
date three whores- break the camels back. good girls pointedly reject you.
date four whore- nothing but whores will be all over you.
the point is, tell her shes sweet and funny before you tell her shes gorgeous.
I'm serious. tell her how much you love her personality FIRST. it will increase your chances when she thinks that personality is your priority.
however, you also need to tell her shes beautiful, but not back to back. unless they're linked somehow. I'm too brain-dead to come up with an example.
SOOO. tell her what you like about her. tell her what habits you find cute, (it makes me smile how you always____) tell her what stands out in her personality, tell her shes stunning.
but don't ever tell her you like her shoes.
then she'll probably think that you're gay.
Friday, October 8, 2010
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
dont be fake.
the very very very first of all is really important. DO NOT pretend to be someone you're not. don't try to change yourself for her. its really hard to actually change your personality, and what if she falls for you? that facade of yours will crack and break eventually, and knowing she fell for a stupid trick will crush her. and about 85% of the time shell warn her friends about you. or the entire school.
especially if the girl is considered 'popular'. then you'll find that you'll be exiled like you have a bad case of lice that not only itch, but will eat your face off.
do you like having a face?
i thought so.
when she asks you a question that you already know her thoughts on, don't change your answer to match hers.
ever seen the movie cloudy with a chance of meatballs? do you remember when Flint said he was allergic to peanuts to get Sam to like him?
do you remember when she found out, and she was like...."um....seriously?" yeah. its a similar reaction (depending on how serious the question is.) lying to her will only make her lose respect, interest, and trust, so don't do it. and we don't ask questions we don't wanna know the answer to. when we ask your favorite sport, we wanna know yours, not hear ours. being so similar creates tension and competition.
the only questions you have to be careful about are,
"do i look fat in this?"
"does my butt look big?"
"am i showing too much cleavage?"
"do i look slutty?"
etc, etc.
there are ways to answer these without lying. example,
her :"do i look fat in this?" you: "it accentuates your curves."
her: "does my butt look big?" you: "it looks good!"
her: "am i showing too much cleavage?" you: "just right for me. i wanna punch those other guys for staring, though."
her: "do i look slutty?" you: "you look like you aren't a prude, but you aren't a whore."
GUYS, this is only for more sensitive girls. if your chick can take the truth, give it to her! i myself wouldn't ask if my butt looks big unless i wanted to know. though i don't really care if my butt looks big.
there's another thing you have to look out for: the questions that aren't questions. examples would be,
"today, Melissa told me i looked like a whore in front of the entire gym class." now it doesn't sound like a question, but its more like a test of your listening. this time, DON'T be brutally honest. shed probably be kinda upset about this and looking for some comfort. if you two are close enough at the time, hug her and tell her she looks beautiful. tell her she is not a whore, and that 'Melissa' is completely crazy and probably just jealous because she couldn't get a boyfriend to save her life.
another example of this would be, "i think my ____ are/is too____" like... "i think my makeup is too overdone. i should wash it off...." this shows self doubt. (most of the time.) its not as obvious, but she probably needs a little boost of self confidence. so give her a compliment, it wont kill you! try, "no no. you're makeup brings out everything good about your face." but then take it a little bit farther to brighten her day. but not too far. acceptable: "and has anyone ever told you that you have the most beautiful eyes?" NOT acceptable " and you just look beautiful alllll the time, so don't even say that." this sounds fine on the outside, but when you look farther, it can say, "I'm just sucking up to you and i just wanna get in your pants. so i don't wanna hear your thoughts or feelings. ever."
yes, girls are complicated. EXTREMELY so.
but I'm not kidding here. this works. I'm giving you gold here. GOLD. are you gonna take it?
especially if the girl is considered 'popular'. then you'll find that you'll be exiled like you have a bad case of lice that not only itch, but will eat your face off.
do you like having a face?
i thought so.
when she asks you a question that you already know her thoughts on, don't change your answer to match hers.
ever seen the movie cloudy with a chance of meatballs? do you remember when Flint said he was allergic to peanuts to get Sam to like him?
do you remember when she found out, and she was like...."um....seriously?" yeah. its a similar reaction (depending on how serious the question is.) lying to her will only make her lose respect, interest, and trust, so don't do it. and we don't ask questions we don't wanna know the answer to. when we ask your favorite sport, we wanna know yours, not hear ours. being so similar creates tension and competition.
the only questions you have to be careful about are,
"do i look fat in this?"
"does my butt look big?"
"am i showing too much cleavage?"
"do i look slutty?"
etc, etc.
there are ways to answer these without lying. example,
her :"do i look fat in this?" you: "it accentuates your curves."
her: "does my butt look big?" you: "it looks good!"
her: "am i showing too much cleavage?" you: "just right for me. i wanna punch those other guys for staring, though."
her: "do i look slutty?" you: "you look like you aren't a prude, but you aren't a whore."
GUYS, this is only for more sensitive girls. if your chick can take the truth, give it to her! i myself wouldn't ask if my butt looks big unless i wanted to know. though i don't really care if my butt looks big.
there's another thing you have to look out for: the questions that aren't questions. examples would be,
"today, Melissa told me i looked like a whore in front of the entire gym class." now it doesn't sound like a question, but its more like a test of your listening. this time, DON'T be brutally honest. shed probably be kinda upset about this and looking for some comfort. if you two are close enough at the time, hug her and tell her she looks beautiful. tell her she is not a whore, and that 'Melissa' is completely crazy and probably just jealous because she couldn't get a boyfriend to save her life.
another example of this would be, "i think my ____ are/is too____" like... "i think my makeup is too overdone. i should wash it off...." this shows self doubt. (most of the time.) its not as obvious, but she probably needs a little boost of self confidence. so give her a compliment, it wont kill you! try, "no no. you're makeup brings out everything good about your face." but then take it a little bit farther to brighten her day. but not too far. acceptable: "and has anyone ever told you that you have the most beautiful eyes?" NOT acceptable " and you just look beautiful alllll the time, so don't even say that." this sounds fine on the outside, but when you look farther, it can say, "I'm just sucking up to you and i just wanna get in your pants. so i don't wanna hear your thoughts or feelings. ever."
yes, girls are complicated. EXTREMELY so.
but I'm not kidding here. this works. I'm giving you gold here. GOLD. are you gonna take it?
this is not a tutorial on how to get into her pants.
i will not make this a blog on how to sleep around. that's disgusting and of a bad habit, and I'm just not going to do it, so suck it up.
this IS going to be a blog on what to do to catch her attention, spark her interest, and getting her to like you, getting her, and keeping her. seriously boys, its easy. i swear. and it wont be toooo expensive.
to answer the question before it comes, i am a girl. so i know these things will work for a fact the majority of the time.
if it doesn't work, sorry. shes a tuffy and there's nothing that i can do. except tell you that you might just be shooting too far out of your league so its not gonna work. the truth hurts.
but....these tips are pretty excellent if i do say so myself.
which i do, so it works.
okay.
so imma tell you right off the bat not to expect a whole ton. from her, not the blog. dont expect her to be perfect. dont expect her to be pretty all the time. (this ones a big deal.) dont expect her not to be moody! you may have found your freaking soul mate but thats not gonna change the fact that shes a woman. a little understanding is incredibly romantic and will go a long way. whatever you do, DON'T SAY "awwww. that time of the month?" its SO annoying, and you wont ever understand.
embrace that now.
don't expect her to drop everything in a heartbeat to go hang out with you. she can have a life, and she shouldn't expect that of you either. you SHOULD have a life outside of this girl.
don't expect her to want her to talk to you every waking minute, especially when its new. for example, if she stops replying, in the next fifteen minutes DO NOT text her eight times. this is SOOOOO obnoxious and will make you seem desperate. she might just be eating dinner, so don't freak out so bad. (yes, its happened to me. and you know what i did? i broke up with him the next day, he was so annoying. so don't do it.)
thats the end of this very first post.
the spaces between my blog posts have no guarantee. it could be a couple a day (if i have alot to say) and it could be once a week. just saying people. i have a life.
but THANKS for reading. and keep reading. because i seriously do have some good advice guys.
seeya.
this IS going to be a blog on what to do to catch her attention, spark her interest, and getting her to like you, getting her, and keeping her. seriously boys, its easy. i swear. and it wont be toooo expensive.
to answer the question before it comes, i am a girl. so i know these things will work for a fact the majority of the time.
if it doesn't work, sorry. shes a tuffy and there's nothing that i can do. except tell you that you might just be shooting too far out of your league so its not gonna work. the truth hurts.
but....these tips are pretty excellent if i do say so myself.
which i do, so it works.
okay.
so imma tell you right off the bat not to expect a whole ton. from her, not the blog. dont expect her to be perfect. dont expect her to be pretty all the time. (this ones a big deal.) dont expect her not to be moody! you may have found your freaking soul mate but thats not gonna change the fact that shes a woman. a little understanding is incredibly romantic and will go a long way. whatever you do, DON'T SAY "awwww. that time of the month?" its SO annoying, and you wont ever understand.
embrace that now.
don't expect her to drop everything in a heartbeat to go hang out with you. she can have a life, and she shouldn't expect that of you either. you SHOULD have a life outside of this girl.
don't expect her to want her to talk to you every waking minute, especially when its new. for example, if she stops replying, in the next fifteen minutes DO NOT text her eight times. this is SOOOOO obnoxious and will make you seem desperate. she might just be eating dinner, so don't freak out so bad. (yes, its happened to me. and you know what i did? i broke up with him the next day, he was so annoying. so don't do it.)
thats the end of this very first post.
the spaces between my blog posts have no guarantee. it could be a couple a day (if i have alot to say) and it could be once a week. just saying people. i have a life.
but THANKS for reading. and keep reading. because i seriously do have some good advice guys.
seeya.
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